Posted on: August 26, 2022 Posted by: admin Comments: 0

The success or failure of each person is often the result of small things, sometimes making people overlook and disregard it.

Be careful with the things that are considered petty

Believe that in life, we have all had this kind of experience: At night before going to sleep, you pick up your mobile phone and say to yourself: “Just play for a few minutes!”, the result is a few hours. clock.

You are inherently not a good drinker, at a friend’s party invites you to drink, you are not convenient to refuse, saying that you only drink one cup, resulting in a second cup, a third cup, and finally return home in a drunken state. , the body is damaged.

You and your friends are walking down the street, intending not to buy anything, as a result, the store clerk introduces you to an eyebrow pencil, and you end up buying a whole set of makeup to take home.

A lot of things are similar, just change a little the first time, the outcome of what happens next is uncontrollable.

Laziness and indulgence in a day is equivalent to breaking a small hole in the window. Illustration.

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Once heard a very famous story: There was a child who stole things for the first time, stole a needle, the mother felt that it was just a needle, so she did not blame the child. Then the child continued to steal other items.

Growing up, that child became a gold thief, eventually imprisoned, even sentenced to death. He was on the execution ground, crying loudly to his mother: “If the first time you stole a needle, I would severely punish you, you wouldn’t have to die today!”

There is a proverb that says: “A dyke of a thousand miles, broken by an ant’s nest”, if at first you cannot control a few small desires, compromise a little, disregard a few minor ailments, it will eventually disappear. become very large, even uncontrollable.

Milan Kundera, a Czechoslovakian writer once said: “The first betrayal, if you cannot stop it, it will lead to many more betrayals, in the end like a chain reaction, which will take you further and further away.” .

The first time is loose, there will be countless times after

In life, many people are saying perseverance, but those who really persevere are very few. Author Murakami Haruki, born in 1949 in Kyoto, is one of the famous Japanese novelists and literary translators. From the fall of 1982 he started jogging, until today, has persisted for decades.

People who have been persistent in running will all encounter this kind of situation: Today is too busy, can’t run; today too tired, let tomorrow run; I’m not in a good mood today, I don’t want to run… If there is an excuse to give up persistence for the first time, then in the end, I usually don’t want to persist anymore.

Haruki also wondered how long he could hold out. But he also replied to himself: “If I use busyness as an excuse not to run, I will never run again. I had few reasons to keep running, and countless reasons to quit. All I can do is keep that little bit of reason nicely polished.” Because he was never once “lazy”, so he persisted until now.

Persevering in doing one thing, persevering to the end is very difficult, because the moment we don’t want to do it, we will always find a reason for ourselves, to let ourselves be in a comfortable state of relief.

However, even if it is very difficult to persist in a thing, do not let yourself once have the thought of giving up, because giving up once, the second time is even easier.

“Broken Window” Effect

The theory of “broken windows” was first introduced by two American professors, James Q. Wilson and George L. Kelling, in a paper in March 1982.

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Don’t let the “Broken Window Effect” ruin your life. Illustration.

“If a building has a few broken and unrepaired windows, it tends to attract vandals to vandalize a few more windows. Eventually, they can break into the building, and if it’s empty, they’ll take over it or even burn it down. Likewise, if a sidewalk has a build-up of garbage, people will either continue to litter or leave bags of trash there…”

In the 60s and 90s of the last century, New York had a very high crime rate, although at that time New York was already a financial capital of the world. All over the city, full of painted walls, petty theft, train ticket evasion, murders and drug dealings…

Then, two police inspectors, David Gunn and William Bratton, were sent to clean up New York’s subway system, which is the lifeblood of nearly 97% of the city’s people. After just a few years, crime in New York dropped to 65%. Two “small things” that were to remove the paintwork and send plainclothes police officers to the stations to catch train ticket evasion… changed the face and culture of New York.

When the two detectives decided to do “small things”, there was a lot of advice that they should focus on big things like murder or drug trafficking. But in the end, the little things that the two men were determined to do brought comprehensive results.

A room if there is a broken window, if no one repairs it, not long after, other windows will also be broken for no reason.

Meditation and psychotherapy

A wall appears drawings without being erased, very quickly on the wall there will appear a series of doodles, unsightly drawings.

In a very clean place, people wouldn’t accidentally throw their trash out there, but once there was trash on the ground, people wouldn’t hesitate to throw trash around without feeling embarrassed.

This is the theory of the “broken window” effect. Good things people will do their best to protect it, but once good things have traces, people will voluntarily let it get worse. Like some people who are addicted to drugs, the first time they don’t notice, later they fall into a drug addiction that can’t get rid of themselves, destroying their own body.

For a good thing to become bad, it is usually a very small act born out of it. It’s like being late for the first time, with no punishment, and then developing the habit of being late; The first time I lowered the demand for myself, and the last time I didn’t want to ask anymore. So don’t miss the first chance, don’t break the first window.


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