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Listening deeply, listening with compassion is not listening to analyze or find out what happened. We listen first to make the other person less miserable, so that the other person has the opportunity to express his or her feelings and feel that at least someone understands us.

Mindful breathing manipulates the energy of mindfulness.

Deep listening is listening that can help ignite compassion the whole time the other person is speaking, which can be half an hour or forty-five minutes. During that time, we have only one intention to listen so that the other person has a chance to speak out and reduce suffering. This is the sole purpose. Analyzing, figuring out what happened is only a secondary outcome, just a by-product, of listening. The first is to listen with compassion.

If compassionate heart maintained during the listening period, anger and frustration cannot be detected. Otherwise, what that person says will make you angry, angry, and miserable. With compassion alone, you are protected from frustration, anger, and suffering.

Then you want to act like a Great Being while listening because you know that the other person is suffering greatly and needs you to reach out for help. But you have to be equipped to do it.

When firefighters go to fight fires, they must have the right tools: ladders, sprinklers and heat-resistant vests. They must know how to defend themselves and know how to put out fires. When you listen to someone who is suffering, you are entering a burning zone. The fire of suffering and anger is burning inside the person you are listening to. If you don’t have the right tools, you won’t be able to help, and you may be a victim of the other person’s anger. So you need tools.

Mindfulness – The Heart of Meditation

Your tool is compassion, nourished and sustained by mindful breathing. Mindful breathing manipulates the energy of mindfulness. Mindful breathing helps you to hold on to your basic desire to help the other person express his or her thoughts. When the other person speaks, it is possible that his or her words will be filled with bitterness, condemnation, and judgment. His words may touch your own suffering. But if you keep your compassion bright, if you practice mindful breathing, you will be protected. You can sit and listen for hours without suffering. Compassion will nourish you, you know that you are helping the other person to suffer less. Behave like a Bodhisattva. You will be a first class psychotherapist.

Compassionate mind comes from happiness and understanding. When compassion and understanding are lit, you are safe. What he has to say cannot make you miserable and you can listen deeply. You really listen. When you are incapable of listening with compassion, you should not pretend to be listening. The other person will immediately realize that you are full of the concept of suffering but you don’t really understand them. When you have understanding, you can listen with compassion, you can listen deeply, and the quality of that listening is the fruit of your practice.

Self-nurture

We must live deeply every day in joy, peace, in love

We must live deeply each day in joy, peace, in love

Exposure to suffering helps to cultivate compassion and recognize happiness when happiness is present. If you can’t get in touch with suffering, you won’t know what true happiness is. Then our practice is to contact suffering. But each of us has limits. We cannot overdo it.

So you have to take care of yourself. If we listen too much to the suffering, pain, anger, and frustration of others, we will be negatively affected, because we are only exposed to suffering without having the opportunity to contact the positive factors. That would lose balance. So in daily life we ​​have to practice how to be able to contact with fresh things like blue sky, white clouds, birds singing, babies, anything that can bring freshness, healing and nurture in and around us.

Sometimes we are helplessly lost in pain and anxiety. Let my friends help me. They might say, “Hey buddy, look at the sky this morning. Despite the fog, the scenery is so beautiful! Paradise is right here. Why not return to the present to enjoy the beautiful scenery in front of you?” You are surrounded by a sangha, with brothers and sisters, with people capable of living happily. Sangha saves you, helps you get in touch with the mysteries of life. This is a nurturing practice, a very important practice.

Poetry for practicing mindfulness: Waking up

We must live deeply each day in joy, peace, in love, because time passes quickly. Every morning I light a stick of incense, offer it to the Buddha, and promise myself that I will live deeply every second, every minute of the day. It is through the practice of mindful breathing and mindful walking that I can enjoy every second, every minute of my daily life. Mindful breathing and mindful walking are two friends that help me stay in the present, here and now, so that I can get in touch with those inherent mysteries of life.

We need to receive fresh nourishment. Hearing the bell is a nurturing and pleasurable practice. At Plum Village, every time the phone rings or rings, we have the opportunity to stop, stop working, stop talking, stop thinking. These are the bells of mindfulness. When we hear the bell we relax our body and mind and return to the breath. We are aware that we are alive and able to touch the mysteries that are available to us. We stop spontaneously, in pleasure, unimportant, without compulsion. Breathe in and out three times in joy because you know you’re alive. When we stop, we restore peace within ourselves and we have freedom. The work we are doing becomes more enjoyable, the friends around us become more real.

The practice of stopping and following the breath to the sound of a bell is an example of a practice that helps us to come into contact with something beautiful and nourishing in our daily lives. We can practice alone, but if we have the Sangha, the practice will be easier.

Excerpt from the book “Anger” – Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh

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