Life always consists of two sides, both happiness and suffering, joy and sadness. If we have never suffered, how can we know happiness?
The Seven Ways to End Suffering
Does happiness often come when we don’t expect it? We often try to appear positive and happy, but in reality, life always has two sides: both happiness and suffering, joy and sadness. If we have never suffered, how can we know happiness? Do we feel good today? That’s great! But what if that’s not the case?
Don’t lie to yourself and be honest with yourself
Do not deceive yourself, but honestly reflect on the ups and downs in life or in the interior, and do not disguise the situation and mood. This may sound strange, but the fact is that we still hide many things, either consciously or unconsciously. We are not contemplating our own train of thought, but only superficially paying attention. This leads to a situation where we do not “know ourselves” nor can we understand others.
Many people wonder how can we “think positively” while still accepting anything, even being prepared for the worst-case scenario? How can “prepare for the worst” be “positive”?
What is the greatest suffering?
In fact, modern life has too much pressure for us to always think positively. But we have to be honest with ourselves. Bad things happen in life, so do sad things. Everything is impermanent, only death is certain. So we should not avoid or suppress our worries and worries, but should have a direct and wise view of them.
Train our minds to be open to anything other than pessimism, and that doesn’t mean we expect the worst. At this point, it is best to learn to live without expecting much because they are like an invisible chain. The best preparation is that we just try to do well today and don’t try to predict what hasn’t happened yet.
Complaining will hide the good things
It’s strange that people just like to choose suffering
The Buddha called the vicissitudes of life “the cycle of suffering”. It may sound pessimistic at first, but we should face the truth rather than deceive ourselves and pretend everything is perfect. In that way, we will surely only bring more disappointment. We are also prone to fall into the habit of wasting too much time focusing on the “bad side” of life. Many people think that complaining is the best way, or not doing so means they are suppressing their emotions. Agree that we should be frank and honest, but the question is where do these feelings come from? The annoying complaints keep piling up so that the good things are hidden, making us no longer recognize and appreciate life.
When we really pay attention and spend some time reflecting on our positive and negative emotions every day, we will find that compassion arises naturally. We no longer torment ourselves, run away from unfortunate mistakes, but know how to let go and learn lessons from them. As we get to know ourselves better, we look for similarities instead of differences. Thereby realizing that the object of our affliction also experiences inner afflictions. Compassion does not come rushing in at once like a big wave, but when we learn to cultivate gratitude for all aspects of our lives, we will experience empathy, self-understanding and understanding of others better than before.
LOOK EVERY DAY
Lie down, close your eyes, put your hand over your heart, and ask yourself, “What happened today?”. Let the stream of consciousness flow through your heart and you will feel the urge to continue to listen to the answers from within. What is most important in this life? Let’s be honest about what we’ve been through. You shouldn’t color everything, just accept things as they are. Life sometimes gives us moments of joy, but it also comes with hours of trouble. Being honest with yourself is the most important thing, explore your emotional world with compassion, self-acceptance and non-judgment. You really need to understand what’s going on. Life is a series of different experiences; If you can reflect on these experiences with compassion, without blame, fear or anger, you will understand the nature of all problems and how they arise and fall away.
Excerpt from the publication “Enlightenment every day”, compiled and published by Drukpa Vietnam