Posted on: March 23, 2022 Posted by: admin Comments: 0


Happiness actually doesn’t just come from being happy, it also comes from a “don’t expect” attitude when you allow the unsatisfactory to happen.

No one can completely avoid suffering

Things that we often don’t want such as: failure, broken love, being judged, being hurt by others, etc. can happen to anyone. No matter how carefully calculated and avoided, no one can guarantee that they will not encounter unsatisfactory things. Just as no one can completely avoid suffering, so do the exhausting emotions of having so much out of control in life.

The Buddha once spoke of eight worldly concerns: gain and loss, happiness and suffering, praise and blame, glory and humiliation. Those are the inseparable parallel pairs in life, to have one must know to accept the other. There will be praises, there will be disparaging opinions, must go through suffering, we will taste the taste of true happiness.

Happiness is when you allow undesirable things to happen.

Happiness actually doesn’t just come from being happy, it also comes from a “don’t expect” attitude when you allow the unsatisfactory to happen. Happiness is when you are willing to accept what you have, no longer looking outside for any pleasant feeling.

The storm will then recede. The wound will heal. The night will be lifted by the arrival of the sun. Suffering, no matter how heavy, will pass. Nothing is forever.

Even though all the things you most want to do may happen in the future, you can still prepare your mind and attitude to face it. If the love story falls apart, you can still start over. If this project fails, you can still start a new project. When one door closes, there is always at least one open for each of us.

When afflicted, what you need to do is not run away to find a happier feeling, but simply recognize the disturbing emotions that are inside of you. Feel all that is going on inside with equanimity and serenity. When you focus on the inside instead of the outside, you let yourself be “still” instead of “wavering”, all disturbances in the mind will gradually calm down. Like a glass of water left on the table a few minutes after being stirred “crazy”. Life is impermanent, and so are emotions.

The storm will then recede. The wound will heal. The night will be lifted by the arrival of the sun. Suffering, no matter how heavy, will pass. Nothing is forever.

There is a saying that makes those who are happy will be sad, those who are sad will be happy: “It will all pass”. If you are happy right now, cherish it and enjoy it. Don’t be too upset if you’re facing a sad story, because it will all pass quickly. Each moment contains both an end and a beginning, both opportunities and luck if you know how to catch it in time.

We are more at peace when we accept the volatility of things and allow ourselves to be sad, angry or frustrated. We are more peaceful when we allow all experiences, whether painful or happy, whether unexpected or unexpected, to come and go, to blend in with the flow of time, once and for all.

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