Sufferers cannot have the happiness of peace. Such a person does not know how to love himself, how can he have love to give to others?! Therefore, being content is a condition for spreading such noble love.
Gentle in ideas, words and actions bring great efficiency in all communication. In addition, gentle behavior helps us avoid many unnecessary conflicts. Rude easily hurts others, especially those who are carrying heavy emotions, the soul is even more vulnerable.
If we want to help someone who is suffering, we need to be gentle so as not to create feelings of inferiority, guilt, and insults. Gentleness is something that even children love, let alone adults! Children easily fall asleep with a mother’s gentle, loving caress. People who are suffering will feel relieved by the gentle gestures and words of the opposite person. Therefore, it is necessary to express loving-kindness effectively and gently when in contact with the object.
On that basis, in order not to hurt our loving-kindness and at the same time not miss the opportunity to help others, we need to let go of the pride, arrogance, and anger that are the enemies of gentleness. The arrogance in man is like an open wound, which will sting when someone touches his ego. People with this nature find it difficult to approach others, especially those who are suffering. Sufferers are more likely to act clumsy because of the insecurity that weighs on them.
Sometimes psychological shrinkage compresses suffering into a mass that makes them grumpy and not cute. We have to be very gentle with deep sympathy, bring our pride to the zero line to be able to approach and help them. Similarly, a person with anger and anger as if carrying a cancer in his heart cannot have great love to give to others. To be able to contact people who are in trouble, it takes a sincere and open love through gentle gestures, gentle eyes and all things from a gentle heart.
People with a high self-esteem can’t extend love to others, that’s for sure. Why ? Because in people with pride, only themselves are important, they are above all, with the “inhumane” view, they only have self-pity and a selfish life. Self-righteous people only think about themselves and themselves, never understanding the difficulties and sufferings of others. They also can not understand and do not need to understand what other people’s needs are? What bright spots are there? All these problems that are the basis for the practice of loving-kindness are lacking in people of high self-esteem.
To be able to practice loving-kindness, we need to respect others, consider others as important as we are, and that the sufferings of others are also our own. can love wholeheartedly. Therefore, pride and great love are two extremes, unable to meet.
Satisfied people are those who easily accept this life, content with what they have. Satisfied people are always peaceful and free in life, not dependent on external factors that are not under their control and domination. People who are not satisfied with their current lives are the ones who want to be “someone” other than themselves, the ones who want more than what they have.
Because they want too much, even though what they really need is not much, they are always insecure because they are dominated by greed. Desire is not possible, they become angry, irritated by the mind of anger. A person with a lot of greed and hatred cannot love anyone, cannot give anyone anything, whether it is material or spiritual, let alone love, which is not easy to give!
Those who know how to be satisfied with what they have are those who know enough and want little. This is the conduct of the monastic that the Buddha often praises. Before leaving this world, the Buddha kindly advised his disciples to practice this act of wanting less, knowing enough. Those who know enough, even lying on earth feel enough, those who are not satisfied, even in heaven, are still not satisfied.
People who are satisfied with life only want to give but do not want to receive anything more, feel redundant in time, material and love, ready to share with others without attachment. People who are not satisfied with the present always torment themselves with their bodies and minds, chasing after desires, seeking and suffering. Sufferers cannot have the happiness of peace. Such a person does not know how to love himself, how can he have love to give to others?! Therefore, being content is a condition for spreading such noble love. (continue)