Posted on: April 28, 2022 Posted by: admin Comments: 0

It is certain that whoever possesses stubbornness will live with less happiness and more suffering. Happiness and stubbornness are almost never present together in human life.

Without a mirror of wisdom, without peace of mind, few people see themselves as the most clingy and recognize themselves as a stubborn person. Some people even vaguely realize that they are stubborn at times but then ignore them, not observing clearly, many of the sufferings, sorrows, and insecurities in their lives and those around them are due to their own stubbornness. I caused.

The habit of stubbornness is a kind of affliction, a kind of karmic practice, a habit of deep, subtle origin that is difficult to detect and recognize.

Based on the Buddha’s teachings, it can be divided into two types of stubbornness:

One is the wrong attachments in the perception of self, me and mine, mine (self-grasping).

Second, there is a misperception in perceiving the true nature and nature of things, the world, and phenomena, especially wrong adherence to the method of practice to attain enlightenment and liberation. France).

Self-grasping is the source of suffering

Every day let go of a little bit of stubbornness, open up your heart, be more tolerant.

These false attachments to “self” and “dhamma” are the source, the cause, and the root of all human suffering and pain.

Talking about self-grasping and law-abiding, it is very subtle, abstract, profound, and not everyone can see it clearly, so we point out specific definitions and manifestations in daily life so that we can Examining our own mind, looking back at our own actions, words, deeds and thoughts, helps us identify and discover our own stubborn characteristics.

Let’s calmly observe:

Do we have the type of never admitting that we are wrong, always defending ourselves to be the best?

Do we have the type of stubbornly insisting on keeping our opinions, thoughts, and rigid concepts available even if it is wrong?

Do we have the type, just keep holding the mistakes of others in our hearts, refusing to acknowledge the good or bad of others?

Do we have the type, because of personal prejudice against a person or group of people, that we do not recognize the positive contributions beneficial to the community?

Are we willing to listen to the advice and advice of those around us?

Are we willing to forgive others’ negligent mistakes towards us?

We are stingy, thrifty, keep our possessions, just want to add, don’t want to give up, even our loved ones do detailed calculations, don’t want to share.

We have witnessed Mrs. Seven living in the front of District 1, very rich, every day just enjoy bringing all kinds of money, dollars, and gold to count, then bring it into a 3-layer locker to keep it, poor children and grandchildren. When I was sick, I didn’t have money for medicine, I didn’t have money to pay school fees, I didn’t come to ask for it or give it to me. Bay herself is seventy-nine years old and lives alone, no one can live with her, and she dares not eat or dress for fear of spending money. At the time of her death, she wore an old black-and-gray suit, spring pants, and lay on an eight-foot – six-foot iron bed, rusted, the old soft tattered mat, no one beside her. At that time many kinds of coins and gold were still lying dormant in a three-layer lock cabinet.

This is a manifestation of the “mine” habit.

Do we have the kind of vain dignity, virtual life, vanity, self-polishing, self-aggrandizement?

Do we keep firmly in our hearts that the words of others that are not spoken or accidentally touched our pride, the way of life that we let our stomachs die?

Each person will have different types of stubbornness, some of which are obvious, and others that are more subtle.

Delusion is the root of suffering and depression

Let's often recite the mantra: 'Accepting much suffering, clinging to little suffering, not clinging to no suffering'.  Constantly thinking like this, perhaps, will help us to reduce our attachment and suffering.

Let’s often recite the mantra: “Accepting much suffering, clinging to little suffering, not clinging to no suffering”. Constantly thinking like this, perhaps, will help us to reduce our attachment and suffering.

When we realize our own stubborn vices, let’s take a closer look, our stubborn habits reduce our quality of life, reduce happiness, and even cause suffering and sorrow for ourselves and others. How is the body around?

HT. Thich Thien Sieu once taught very poignantly:

One is also attached, two are also attached, a lifetime of struggle is spent on suffering

Hundreds of things to relax, thousands of things to discharge, leisurely and happily.

Let’s think about it, if we are always dominated by stubbornness and conservatism all our lives, we will have to live in constant sorrow, pain, and frustration. So let’s practice to reduce stubbornness gradually.

So how do we get rid of the bigotry that dominates our life?

The most radical solution is that we have to see clearly everything in the world, including our body, our property, our property, and our appearance. Is there any way to make it last longer? The real nature of our body and mind is no-self, caused by causes and conditions, and has no intrinsic nature and no real subject. If it’s not real, then what’s the point of trying to get it?

More specifically, we practice giving up, letting go, and dumping things that are simple, petty, and easy to give up. Like gestures, unintentional words of others touching us, sometimes they themselves do not want or know, but we cling tightly in our hearts. Letting out our heart will be lighter, happier.

Every day, let go of a little bit of stubbornness, open your heart, and be more tolerant.

If we observe closely, we will find that we are also prone to unintentionally uncontrolled behaviors, deeds, and words that upset people, so we easily overlook their negligence with us. Forgiving others is also forgiving ourselves, so we will be less stubborn.

Let’s observe, breathing out without inhaling is the end of our life, but our in-breath has to borrow from the outside air, so what are we so stubborn about?

Let’s often recite the mantra: “Accepting much suffering, clinging to little suffering, not clinging to no suffering”. Constantly thinking like this, perhaps, will help us to reduce our attachment and suffering.

Who is stubborn?

Endless suffering

Compassionate tolerance

Gradually let go

Life is more fun


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