If we hear someone say that we ourselves have been the main factor causing our own suffering and sorrow, causing our loved ones to suffer, we will immediately object.
Because it is clear that we really want to make ourselves, our family and our loved ones live happily, peacefully, but no one is crazy to make themselves and their loved ones miserable. We keep thinking that the situation is miserable, other people are jealous, causing us suffering, then we complain about heaven and earth, we blame ourselves, blame our relatives, friends, colleagues… for making us miserable. But the reality is that we make ourselves miserable.
This may sound like a paradox, but if we are alert and subtly observing our own words, deeds, actions, and thoughts deeply, we will see that it is we who are causing us suffering, no anyone else.
Transformation of suffering
To be more specific:
Our own bad habits make us miserable
My unwholesome temperaments trouble me
The karma that we have created or are causing is causing us suffering
Unwholesome negative thoughts, wrong perceptions cause trouble for us
Mistakes that cause trouble for us
Evil lies that cause me trouble
Excessive greed causes trouble for me
Selfish, petty, jealous accumulations cause trouble for us
The hot-tempered anger causes trouble for us…
Calculating more than losing, my attachments cause me suffering
In short, because we don’t understand clearly, if we want to live happily and peacefully, we must cultivate the mind to cultivate nature, abandon evil, do good, and move toward good; give up greed, hatred, ignorance, learn compassion, tolerance, let gooh Buddha taught so we suffer.
Evil and unwholesome mental states always make us suffer. Only when our mind is tamed, controlled, cultivated, awakened, pliable, expanded… can we have a peaceful, happy, and leisurely life. This is a sure thing.
Cultivated mind will cause less suffering
Cultivated mind will cause less karma
The mind with cultivation will be peaceful and relaxed
I blame people
Make me suffer
My own karma
Make me suffer